Getting overwhelmed before your wedding is frighteningly easy. Unless you’ve hired a wedding planner, everything down to the very last detail is up to you. It’s almost understandable that you’d fall back on traditional wedding tropes rather than have to spend a single second longer fixating on the details. But there are nice clichés and then there are the clichés that make one groan and roll their eyes. If you’re planning your wedding without help, here are five overused wedding choices to avoid.
#1: The Garter Belt Toss
Maybe at some point in our history, this used to be romantic, but now it’s just plain icky. Mere hours after the bride is promised love and protection from her partner, she is immediately thrown in the middle of the reception hall while the groom’s buddies cheer him on as he shoves his head up her dress like a gopher burrowing through the ground. And, once he discovers the garter strapped erotically around his new wife’s thigh, he then—at the collective jeering of his friends—drags it off her leg with his teeth to be later tossed and caught by a lucky pervert. We’re not even exaggerating. Did we mention that everyone is watching, including the bride’s parents, grandparents, and co-workers? Talk about mortifying. This may have been appropriate in a Medieval ceremony, but it’s definitely something that needs to be dead and buried.
#2: Hiring Friend Photographers
Just because your friend has a high-quality DSLR camera, it doesn’t mean they can take a decent photo. Horror stories abound about couples who let their friends take care of the photography at a highly discounted price only to be left with blurry, unflattering memories. Talk about a friendship killer. The best piece of advice we can give you is that if you’re going to splurge on anything, splurge on photography. If your friend wants to take pictures, they should feel free to do so as an invited guest, not as the hired help. The food, cake, decorations, and flowers won’t last longer than the wedding day, but your pictures will last forever. Make every shot count.
#3: Overdoing the DIY
Finding it on Pinterest doesn’t automatically make it a) nice, or b) easy to do. We understand that saving money here and there by taking care of some of the decorations yourself can be tempting. However, not all of us are natural-born crafters. There is no guarantee that the DIY projects you take on will turn out like the pictures. What Pinterest doesn’t tell you is how expensive and time-consuming a DIY project is. And if you’re like every other bride we know, you probably don’t have all the time in the world to bust out the glitter and glue.
#4: Letting Parents Make Your Decisions
This advice applies to every facet of life. If you haven’t already butted heads with mom or dad about wedding details, trust us, you will. Our parents just want what’s best for us. Sometimes that turns into a fight for control. There is often an excuse that since they’ve already been through a wedding, they know a little bit more than you do about what needs to be done. We understand that they want to help and be a part of the planning process. But their wishes should never override yours. Never. It’s the one day of your life that is completely and totally about you and your spouse. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.
#5: Sticking With Trending Colour Schemes
Coral, mint, and peach is an excellent pastel combo, but it isn’t the only one. We hate to be the ones to say it, but if your friends all decided to jump off a bridge, does that mean you have to? While it may be important to you to stay on trend, we don’t think it’s a true act of self-expression to choose a specific colour scheme just because it’s du jour. We think it’s much more important to showcase who you truly are by picking colours that you absolutely love.
If you find yourself falling into these cliché wedding traps, don’t be too hard on yourself. No one ever talks about how difficult it is to plan a wedding until they’re faced with the challenge themselves. Find out how STORI Events can execute a one-of-a-kind wedding that combines unique style to create a wedding to remember.